I had dinner with an old high school friend tonight. We kept in touch off and on throughout college, but I haven’t had much contact with him after I went to graduate school. We actually ran into each other at a restaurant a couple weeks ago. I barely recognized him. He seems to have gained a lot of weight, so it took a few seconds to register who he was.
When he called me up today to finalize our plans, he suggested we go to a fast food restaurant. I was a little surprised. I was expecting to sit down at a “real” restaurant, even if it wasn’t fancy, but I thought maybe he gained weight because fast food is his main source of food. After all, I ate fast food multiple times a day in college. That’s how I got fat.
I don’t eat fast food too often anymore, so I didn’t have a problem eating a small burger or two. I skipped the fries (even though I wanted them). Interestingly, my friend ordered an Asian salad with grilled chicken.
Since my friend chose to meet at a fast food restaurant, I thought maybe he only wanted a short meeting, but we ended up talking for almost two hours. I didn’t say anything about his weight gain (or my weight loss) though, since I don’t know how sensitive he is about his weight.
It was great catching up with an old friend, but I wonder if I should have said something about his weight. In high school, my friend was very fit, much more than I was. What are you supposed to say in such a situation? If someone loses weight, you say “It looks like you lost some weight” or “You look great” or something, but what if someone gains weight?